4 Questions for Your Second Date

If your first date went well enough that you are opting for a second one then you are probably going to want to dive into some fresh conversation topics. It is easy to fall into the routine of asking basic questions about work and family, but these do not give you a deeper insight into the person you are dating. Instead of the traditional questions, try out these four on your second date.

1. Do You Have Any Phobias, and How Severe Are They?

Talking about our fears is therapeutic. And sharing your fears with your date ensures that one of you does not do something that might freak the other one out. For example, I have a fear of being trapped in small spaces. When I was a waitress, the knob on the inside of the walk-in cooler had broken while I was in there. You cannot open the door any other way. I was stuck in there for about five minutes. It was terrifying and since then, I always need to know that an exit is working properly. In a nutshell, don’t try to get me into any small spaces because I will turn into a ninja.

2. What Is the Most Dangerous Thing You Have Ever Done?

Human beings have an intense fascination with people who choose to live life on the wild side. This question makes an interesting conversation topic. You will get to learn about the types of reckless things that someone did during their younger years. Additionally, you will find a new admiration for their thrill-seeking side.

3. What Is Your Secret to Happiness?

At some point in your life you have probably wondered what made another person tick. What is the difference between people who are all doom and gloom and those who always seem to find the silver lining in life? You can get these answers – at least for one person in your life – when you ask. There are many ideas about what makes a person happy but the truth is that we all have different things that fill our happiness tank. When you know what makes a person happy, you are better able to fulfill that happiness for them in the future.

4. Is There Anything Crazy You Plan to Do, and Why?

Another subjective term is the word “crazy”. What one person things is insane, another person might think is pennies. Way in the back of our minds, we all have that one thing that we think is a little nutty that we would do if we had the chance. Asking this question lets you see what kind of adventures your match might be interested in and why.

For example, in 2015, I am running ten different obstacle course races. My friend is doing them with me. Her boyfriend, who has served in the Army for 20 years, said “The military puts people through these obstacles as torture and training – and you two want to do it for fun?!” He thinks we are crazy! But those other people running along side of us think it’s fun. At the end of the day, it is a story to tell, new friends to be made, and the opportunity to say that you did something that most people you know wouldn’t.