Keep the Spark Alive: Top Tips for Injecting Fun into Your Love Life

When two people first start dating, they enter a magical period known as the honeymoon period. When you first meet someone, everything is exciting and full of anticipation of what’s to come.

Weekends are fun and full of new things to do, and even nights spent cuddling on the couch and watching a movie are something to look forward to.

However, somewhere along the way, people lose sight of the fact that we are supposed to be having fun, and we fall into a boring routine.

You and your partner don’t have to be that “blah” duo, and neither does your situation. Here are some ideas for you and your partner to have more fun together!

Discover Each Other’s Joy

Find out what truly delights your significant other. When we talk about joy, we’re referring to the kind of happiness that makes a person want to get up and dance all over the house. Not only is it exciting to spend time with each other (and come up with fantastic date ideas) while doing activities that bring each other joy, but it also demonstrates consideration for the other person’s feelings and a desire to bring them joy.

Discover what makes each other happy and do your best to do more of it.

Try Something New

Have you ever gone ocean paddle boarding, taken a hot air balloon ride, bungee jumped, or seen a beautiful panoramic view from a high-up hiking spot?

Doing the same things over and over again is a sure way to get stuck in a rut where you and your partner will not grow as people. Push the limits, be willing to take risks, and think of things to do together that are more daring than usual!

Make a To-do List

You know how it is when you have a brilliant idea for something to do, but by the time the weekend arrives, you have completely forgotten about it and are at a loss for what to do with your time? Us too!

That is why we recommend making a to-do list–when you think of something exciting and entertaining to do, simply make a note of it and add it to the list. Then, when the weekend arrives, you won’t be at a loss for what you should and could be doing instead.

Communicate Honestly

If you are totally open and transparent with your partner, you will feel a sense of freedom that is both comforting and exciting. You and your partner can take advantage of this honesty and openness in a variety of ways to make your relationship more enjoyable.

You should share your hopes, wildest ideas, and deepest desires with one another and then collaborate to devise a strategy for achieving those goals. Creating “vision boards” that depict your ideal life is one of the activities that can be a lot of fun. This can be a great way to get your partner to open up a little more, even if they usually keep things to themselves.

If vision boards are too hippy-dippy for you, try opening a bottle of wine or making some margaritas, putting on some music, and asking each other fun (and funny) questions.

Be Fluent in Their Love Language

It has been said that we all have different “love languages,” or ways that we prefer to show and receive affection. According to Mind Body Green, “The five love languages are five different ways of expressing and receiving love: words of affirmation, quality time, receiving gifts, acts of service, and physical touch. Not everyone shows love in the same way, and everyone prefers to receive love in different ways.

“The concept of love languages was developed by Gary Chapman, Ph.D., in his book The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts, where he describes these five unique styles of communicating love, categories he distilled from his experience in marriage counseling and linguistics.”

Knowing each other’s love languages is a great way to strengthen your bond and start communicating more effectively. It could also enable couples to solve problems and clear up misunderstandings by helping them understand each other’s ways of showing love.

If you haven’t already, take the online test to find out what your “love language” is. Instead of guessing how your spouse would like you to respond, express your true feelings. Read the profiles that apply to each of you at the end, and you’ll be surprised at how many “whoa!” moments you’ll have.

If you and your partner are having trouble communicating, learning about each other’s “love languages” will undoubtedly help. You’ll find the sparks flying again by changing things up and doing things for each other that speak to your love languages.

Rekindle Your Dating Life

How long has it been since you and your partner went on a date? Not to a family dinner or a business lunch, but on an actual date? A night out for dinner, a movie, and a stroll down the beach?

Did you do anything special on your first dates? Start dating again by reliving one of your favorite dates from the past or coming up with an entirely new date idea. This, however, does not end with dating. How often did you and your partner talk on the phone or send texts throughout the day when you were dating? That is exactly what you should do again!

Go on a Trip

There is no shortage of amazing things to do in the world; all you have to do is jump in. Perhaps you don’t have the money to travel all over Europe, but that shouldn’t stop you from going on a trip with your partner.

Discover what’s going on in your region and the surrounding area. We have a tendency to believe that to have an exciting experience, we must travel far away from home, when in fact, there are many exciting locations much closer to home. Even making plans for a trip together is a fun thing to do. If you and your loved one can only take a vacation once or twice a year, you can still make the most of those opportunities by planning the perfect getaway together.

Daylong Decision-Making

This one is a lot of fun! Every day, we make hundreds of thousands of decisions about what to wear, what to eat, where to sit, and when to go to bed. It’s not always easy to make a decision. However, fun can be had when one partner makes all the decisions.

Swap roles with your spouse; perhaps one weekend, they make all the decisions, and the next, you do. Make your own rules and boundaries, and have some fun with it!

Create Your ‘Perfect Date’

Ask yourself, “Have you ever imagined the perfect date in your head?” The one night when everything goes perfectly? Could you describe the ideal date for your significant other? It’s a great way to show each other affection while also having fun.
Choose a night when you can both fulfill the other person’s date fantasies. Establish whatever works best for you, whether it’s rules or a financial limit. You can both take your time planning the perfect date and then go on it. Together, you never know what kind of crazy ideas you’ll have!